Diary of a lonely extrovert

Behind every radiating smile, is a shadow looming within.-Ezera Emetu.

I became a mixture of the rare introvert/extrovert specie many years ago when I made a drastic decision to get rid of my friends and be loyal to my future. It paid off, but had consequences thanks to long spells of loneliness and depression.
Being a lonely extrovert demands lots of efforts to smile and be in good company in public, when inwardly you feel miserable and in need of a heart to reach out to. It becomes even more complicated when people run to you for succour, run to you for strength and motivation. How can you possibly fail them? How can you display weakness when you represent a symbol of strength?

Few days ago, Chester Bennington, the Linkin Park lead singer, died of suspected suicide aged 41. A man who gave millions a reason to live opted for the easy way!  
He had everything billions in the world pray and fast each say for a percent. Money, fame, power and what have you. So  why then did he end everything?

His death and many more to come shows we all fight numerous unseen battles. Noiseless battles with loud consequences. Battles of life and death, love and hate, strength and weakness, battles that determine the choice to live or die.

Sometimes loneliness comes not from that lack of company or affection, but the fear of failing in life. The fear you may never live the dreams in you. Dreams that mean the world to you.
Of late, I have been more depressed than I have smiled. The past one year has been the worst part of my life so far. 
My Faith has been questioned. 

My patience stretched beyond her.limits.

My spirit has been near broken. But I hold on, expecting God to show up.

There are days I wish to just end everything and take a walk. There are days I get to depressed I wish I could wake in a coma.

Outwardly, I seem a very jolly fellow. But within I hurt and wonder when it will all end.
But then, there are millions like me out there with worse experiences. Experiences that make mine look like a headache.  Millions who wake up with suicidal thoughts but lack the courage to take a walk. Millions who have lost the will to live and believe again. Millions who are lonely extroverts. Millions in need of a change. Will it ever come?

We keep believing and hoping that someday the closed door will be broken or the building razed down.

That someday we will toast to a better life and laugh hard at our anxieties. I will keep fighting till there is no air left. Hope you do same!

Warm regards from a Lonely Extrovert®


Breaking: Everton sign Nigerian striker Henry Onyekuru

​Everton have pulled off a significant transfer coup by landing the signature of Henry Onyekuru from Belgian outfit KAS Eupen.

The Nigeria striker finished last season as the joint leading scorer in the Belgian Super League with 22 goals in 38 games, 10 of those came in the final 10 games – and he has attracted the attention of a number of top clubs across Europe.
His form was so good that he won his first international cap at the end of the campaign for Nigeria.

(GRAPHIC) Ghana Army Captain stoned, burnt & killed mistaken for a robber 

Dusturbing news reaching us from Ghana says, in an instance of instant jungle justice gone wrong, residents of Boase in the Central Region are reported to have stoned, burnt and killed captain Maxwell Mahama of the Ghana Armed Forces in a mob action.

Captain Maxwell Mahama is said to be with the 5th Infantry Battalion (5BN) at Burma Camp in Accra but was on detachment duties at Denkyira Boase in the Upper Denkyira.

West District of the Central Region when the dastardly act happened.

Residents having been at the receiving end of varied robbery raids had grown weary and so when Captain Mahama had gone for an early morning jogging in civilian clothes accompanied by his gun, curious women who saw the gun raised the alarm he could be an armed robber.

The Assembly Member of the area is said to have then mobilized youth leading the charge to hurl offensive objects at the officer.

Having come to their senses that the man they had just murdered was no robber but indeed a military man, the youth are reported to be fleeing the town in droves to avoid the deadly fate which awaits them when military persons visit the town.
Captain Mahama’s body has since been conveyed to a heath facility. He is survived by a wife and two children.

Since the atrocious act, well-meaning Ghanaians have expressed outrage on social media demanding that the culprits who conspired to expire this fine officer and family man be apprehend and made to face the full wrath of the state. Meanwhile condolences continue to pour in urging the wife to be strong in this difficult time.

RIP Gallant one. This is sad.

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​Color-Blind Highschooler Makes Millions Selling Custom Socks Online

17-year-old Brennan Agranoff started his custom sock business in middle school, with a small loan he got from his parents. He has so far sold over $1 million worth of socks online in the last four years and is now planning to get hiswacky socks into retail stores as well.

But the boy didn’t pitch the business idea to his most likely investors – his parents – immediately. Instead he spent six months researching things like digital printing machinery and technology and drawing up a business plan. Only when he had everything figured out did he approach his parents about a loan. ” “They thought the concept was a little out there,” Brennan recently told CNN Money , but he kept pushing, and eventually received a $3,000 loan to start his company.

HoopSwagg started out in the Agranoff family garage. Brennan asked his parents to buy “as many white athletic socks as they could get from Dick’s Sporting Goods,” and he started working on original designs. The teen didn’t let the fact that he was colorblind stop him, and has so far come up with over 200 original designs, which range from goofy (a melting ice cream cone) to funky (a spoof of the infamous Portland International Airport carpet) and abstract.

Business was slow the first year, but then Brennan Agranoff started pushing his brand heavily on social media, leveraging both his social circle of friends and also targeting a group of online influencers to help promote HoopSwagg products.

Orders soon started coming in in large numbers, and HoopSwagg became a popular brand among custom sock enthusiasts.

As business started booming, Brennan’s parents built a 1,500- square-foot building on their property for production, warehousing and shipping, and his mother became a full-time HoopSwagg employee. They now get around 100 orders every day, and that number is only growing to grow as Agranoff plans to expand into arm sleeves and ties, and get his products into retail stores. Right now, his designs can be found on the official HoopSwagg website, Amazon and eBay.

Four years after starting his business, Brennan Agranoff has sold over $1 million worth of his original socks, acquired one of his main competitors, adding its 300 designs to his collection and got into custom printed shoelaces as well, all while balancing school, house chores and his social life. And he says he loved every minute of it.

Brennan has never taken a business class in his life, but says he has always had an entrepreneurial spirit, buying items at garage sales and selling them on eBay when he was just 8 years old. 

Young Brennan

“So really, I’ve been learning how to do this for a while. Especially today, with all the information available on the internet, you can’t be too young to learn how to be an entrepreneur,” the 17-year-old says.

Pause and imagine what how few years from would look like, if you start something this very moment!

Banky W’s Emotional Letter To Fiancée Would Bring You to Tears

D​ear Susu,

We crossed paths 2 or 3 times since 2012, but I wasn’t payingenough attention. Destiny was staring me right in the face and I was too caught up in my own hustle and paper chase, to know it. In June 2015 however, God brought you my way again, and this time, I really SAW you. I was smitten by your grace, aura, and beauty. So smitten infact, that even though I didn’t get to say a word to you that day (because you were seated far across the room), I immediately called my best friend @ captdemuren and told him I’d found my next girlfriend. LOL.

I asked one or two people about you.. your manager Isioma, who I’d worked with previously, and then I did some research myself. Googled you, stalked your instagram.. the whole 9 yards, and the more I found out, the more you seemed like a breath of fresh air.

Now, I personally don’t like being “hooked up”, so I decided to approach you myself by sliding into your DM a few days later.

Introduced myself, made some silly attempts to make you laugh, told you I planned to become your biggest fan, and asked if we could be friends. Thank God you laughed at my silly jokes, and thank God you graciously agreed to becomemy friend. At the time, I was COMPLETELY lying about only wanting to be friends, by the way.. but I figured it was a safeplace to start.

Since that DM, I’ve spoken to you pretty much every single day for almost 2 years. Sometimes, in the morning, at night and in between. We clicked instantly, and you quickly became one of my favourite people on earth, and one of my closest friends. It got to the point where my day wouldn’t quite feel right without speaking to you. I needed your friendship. I needed, and still need, the bond we share. It completes me.

I knew pretty early in the process that I wanted to spend forever with you. Prayed about it fervently. But it took you FOREVER (okay fine.. maybe a year and a half or so) to see things my way. But I kinda knew all along.. I was just waiting for you to catch up.

Banky W and Adesua Etomi In that time, I got engaged to you in my “Made For You” music video… and then by coincidence, we both got cast to get married in “The Wedding Party” movie.. but all the while we were the very best of friends. I guess, in our case, real life will now imitate art.

I’m not sure what the future will bring, but I’m completely sure that I am ready to face it with you by my side. I pray that God continues to build me into the kind of man that you deserve. I love you Susu.. I feel safe and at peace with you. You mean the world to me. Thank you for agreeing to be my lover and best friend. 

Thank you for agreeing to be my wife.PS: The timing of this may make some people think this is promo for another video, or a movie. It isn’t.

Ironically, everyone who has seen us together in art, or in life, always insists that we have amazing chemistry. I guess you can say we have been hiding in plain sight. I fell in love with an Actress. Now my life is a movie.

In February of 2017, I asked Adesua Tolulope Oluwaseun Etomi to be my wife. She said Yes.

*Grabs and handkerchief*

Tribute to a Legend at 30

Born John Michael Nchekwube Obinna on 22 April 1987 in Jos, Nigeria. He captured the hearts of Nigerians when he represented the Nigeria under-20 team at the 2005 FIFA World Youth Championship where won the Silver Ball for the second-best player at the tournament. 

He made his debut for the Nigeria senior team on 17 August 2005, when he came on as a second-half substitute in a 1–0 friendly win over Libya. The versatile legendary player has definitely paved a successful career for himself both in Nigeria and abroad.

Here are 10 things you probably didn’t know about the former Chelsea and Super Eagles midfielder, John Obi Mikel:

1. John Obi Mikel was born as John Michael Nchekwube Obinna on 22 April 1987 in Jos, Nigeria.

2. His father is Michael Obi. His father runs an inter-state transport company in Jos, Nigeria.

3. He commenced his official football career at the age of 12, when he was picked as a talented footballer to play in Pepsi Football Academy.

4. He was later scouted to play for the top-flight club, Plateau United, which has produced top European leagues stars like Victor Obinna, Celestine Babayaro and Chris Obodo to mention a few.

5. He later went on to a trial at South Africa club Ajax Cape Town, ultimately joining Oslo-based club Lyn Fotball in Norway.

6. He won the U-20 Silver Football after being voted the tournament’s second-best player in 2005. Second to the magic Loniel Messi.  He was also awarded with the African Young Player of the Year award in 2005 and 2006.

7. He made his debut for the Nigeria senior team on 17 August 2005, when he came on as a second-half substitute in a 1–0 friendly win over Libya.

8. On 12 August 2011, his father, Michael Obi, was the victim of a suspected kidnapping in Nigeria.

9. In 2013, he was named by the Confederation of African Football in the team of the tournament alongside teammates Vincent Enyeama, Efe Ambrose, Victor Moses and Emmanuel Emenike.

10. He made his FIFA World Cup debut during the 2014 tournament in Brazil, earning a man of the match award in the

Super Eagles’ opening game against Iran and helping the team to reach the knockout stage for the first time since 1998.

*Its also important to note he lost his place in the Chelsea team for representing Nigeria at the Olympics. How patriotic can that be?

Happy 30th birthday celebration Great man and Legend.

​George Junius Stinney Jr; the youngest person executed in U.S.A.

This week on History, we share the controversial story of a the youngest person ever executed in the history of the United States.  
George Junius Stinney Jr. (October 21, 1929 – June 16, 1944) was, at age 14, the youngest person executed in the United States in the 20th century. The question of Stinney’s guilt and the judicial process leading to his execution remain controversial. Stinney, who was black, was arrested on suspicion of murdering two white girls, Betty June Binnicker, age 11, and Mary Emma Thames, age 8, in Alcolu, located in Clarendon County, South Carolina, on March 23, 1944. 

The girls had disappeared while out riding their bicycles looking for flowers. As they passed the Stinney property, they asked young George Stinney and his sister, Katherine , if they knew where to find “maypops”, a type of flower.When the girls did not return, search parties were organized, with hundreds of volunteers.

The bodies of the girls were found the next morning in a ditch filled with muddy water. Both had suffered severe head wounds. Stinney was arrested a few hours later and was interrogated by several white officers in a locked room with no witnesses aside from the officers; because there were no Miranda rights in 1944. Within an hour, a deputy announced that Stinney had confessed to the crime.
No written confession exists, only a few handwritten notes a deputy who was present during the interrogation. Reports said that the officers had offered the boy ice cream for confessing to the crimes. According to the confession, Stinney (90 lbs, 5’1″) wanted to “have sex with ” Betty and could not do so until her companion, Mary was removed from the scene; thus he decided to kill Mary Emma. When he went to kill Mary, both girls “fought back” and he decided to kill Betty, as well, with a 15 inch railroad spike that was found in the same ditch a distance from the bodies. According to the accounts of deputies, Stinney apparently had been successful in killing both at once, causing major blunt trauma to their heads, shattering the skulls of each into at least 4-5 pieces. The next day, Stinney was charged with first-degree murder. 
Jones describes the town’s mood as grief, transformed in the span of a few hours into seething anger, with the murders raising racially and politically charged tension. Townsmen threatened to storm the local jail to lynch Stinney, but prior to this, he had been removed to Charleston by law enforcement.
Stinney’s father was fired from his job at the local lumber mill and the Stinney family left town during the night in fear for their lives.
The trial took place on April 24 at the Clarendon County Courthouse. Stinney’s court appointed lawyer was 30-year-old Charles Plowden, who had political aspirations. Plowden did not cross-examine witnesses; his defense was reported to consist of the claim that Stinney was too young to be held responsible for the crimes. However the law in South Carolina at the time regarded anyone over the age of 14 as an adult.

The jury returned a guilty verdict and Stinney was sentenced to death in the electric chair. When asked about appeals, Plowden replied that there would be no appeal, as the Stinney family had no money to pay for a continuation. 

The execution was carried out at the South Carolina State Penitentiary in Columbia, South Carolina, on June 16, 1944. At 7:30 p.m., Stinney walked to the execution chamber with a Bible under his arm. Standing 5’1″ and weighing just over 90 pounds, he was small for his age, which presented difficulties in securing him to the frame holding the electrodes. Neither did the state’s adult-sized face-mask fit Stinney; his convulsing exposed his face to witnesses as the mask slipped free, “revealing his wide-open, tearful eyes and saliva coming from his mouth “. After two more jolts of electricity, the boy was dead. Stinney was declared dead within four minutes of the initial electrocution. From the time of the murders until

Stinney’s execution, eighty one days had passed.

A sad way to end a beautiful life.

Credit: Nydailynews.com